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(1980 TV Movie)

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8/10
A simply made and effective drama.
FX_Lord23 August 2014
I caught this recently on the Sony Movie Channel. It was one of those made-for-TV true stories about a single man's struggle to adopt a boy, and I probably wouldn't have watched it were it not that Richard Thomas was the star.

Upon watching it I was pleasantly surprised that it managed to keep just the right side of sentimentality, which was rare for TV movies with kids in them at the time. Usually such outings feel patronisingly emotional, with far too much over-score implying you should feel something poignant at various points in the film - but actually they only manage to make you feel like vomiting.

It tells the story of David Benjamin who volunteered at an adoption centre and befriended a young boy who had a speech impediment. When he asks if he could possibly foster the child, he is told that he would have more chance adopting him outright.

What should be a simple task becomes a battle against bureaucracy. First they say they want the boy and all his siblings kept together, but what they later discover is that the real reason they don't want him to adopt is because he is a single man. A single man not particularly liked by those people making the decision who have little if any contact with the boy they are responsible for.

Although this point isn't made explicitly in the film, probably down to the time of day it was broadcast and television's reticence at the time to address this subject, one gets the sense that their real reason for disliking him is a suspicion he may be a predatory child molester - hence they tend to ask him if he is gay. This archaic notion that gay people are more likely to be child molesters is an idea that still exists in many quarters today. Reality check people, paedophiles are paedophiles, they're not straight or gay, and tend to target the gender most available to them.

Anyway, this film is a pleasantly and simply made drama. Richard Thomas here is the real star, brilliantly displaying the range of his character's emotions through this legal minefield, supported by an excellent little actor who plays the boy in many scenes. The emotional connection between them feels real, not forced, and it is difficult not to shed the odd tear. One can easily understand the main character's frustrations, making you root for him all the way.

So, if you have 90 minutes to kill, give it a shot. While not a film that will win any awards for Production Design or Cinematography, the technical aspects you hardly notice as you watch it, you're more concerned with the characters and their plight which is how it should be.
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Just right for the fathers of the family.
spartac871 October 2001
You just might like this movie if your an emotional father. Plus if your tired of watching movies where the father is always the bad guy, this should be just the movie for you.

This movie is just your average midday movie. Its one of a few hard to find movies where the guy wins the day.

Another movie I recommend you watch is 'The Bachelors Baby'(1996). Also another win for the father.
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10/10
Great movie
jaymanhattan2428 January 2007
This movie expresses the love that one person can have for a child that is not biologically there's. The movie was great and touched me with a passion. You fall in love with tommy as soon as you see him in the movie. The tenacity of tommy's father is great, and it has taught me a life lesson to keep plugging away if you believe in something. It has been awhile since a movie has touched my heart with such passion. This movie shows how love can be tapped from all angles. Tommy is the type of kid everyone wants, he is caring, loving, and happy to have someone that loves him. In this day and age, people become bombarded by what the public believes. This movie showed fight from the beginning to the end with tommy and his father against a government agency that did not want things to work out for them. This movies shows the power of adoption, and how adoption takes a kid with possibly no future and love, to happiness and growth. Highly recommended to anyone with a caring heart!
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10/10
The story is true!
rputt-6297023 July 2018
Technical consultants: Ron and Alan Putterman. Our story!
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10/10
What an amazing movie
metalminister13 January 2007
Warning: Spoilers
This movie is based on the true story of a single man wanting to adopt a boy who has various disabilities.

Richard Thomas does a great job of playing a sincere man who is a volunteer and grows to love a boy whom nobody wants to adopt and fights the evil bureaucrats to finally gets his wish and becomes his father.

He has to deal with a girlfriend who is not happy about the fact that he spends more time with the boy then with her.

Also, he has parents that are not very supportive about his decision to adopt as a single man.

I'm sick of men always played in Hollywood as a bunch of S.O.B's...this movie should make not only single fathers feel good, but any body who has a good heart in helping people!

I give this movie a perfect 10!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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10/10
fantastic movie
weathervein23 September 2007
I am extremely surprised that this movie has never made on to DVD. I would love to have a copy of this movie. It's incredible, and haven't seen it for a very long time, and wish I could see it again. Its a shame that this great movie has just been forgotten. Also that so much money has been spent on movies that makes no sense, while this stays hidden. This is one of my all time favorites, its about a man that wants to share his life with a child, give this child love, a home, and a family. Because he is single there is woman who stands in his way to adopt. He stands up and takes the responsibility to fight for what is right. Its an incredible movie showing that men can be strong as a single parent, and to give credit where credit is due. Mothers has always been known as wonderful parents, but the secret is out in this film and that is SO can fathers.
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10/10
heart warming gem of a movie!
msvarniej26 January 2023
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There are surely not enough movies by far like this one and fewactors can deliver it like Richard Thomas who is always exceptional in whatever role he plays.

My thought throughout this was well theres a first time for everything and looks like all odds are against him. Indeed, he does "rattle" the system. A system that rightfully has the rule at the time that 2 parents are better than one when it comes to adoption.

Richard Benjamin is a single young guy who sort of accidentally falls into a volunteer position at an orphanage. In a quick matter of time he meets 7 year old Tommy who has speech as well as hearing problems and who has spent his life at the orphanage.

Soon Ricahrd is spending more and more time with him and they totally love each other. He then wants to adopt the boy although it means going to court.

For a single person, either sex to become a parent, is against tradition, however not written in stone.

In any case, this is a lovely story.
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