I have seen this episode of Law and Order several times. It is quite obvious that the underrated actress, Moira Kelly's character is the victim of both psychological and sexual abuse. The astounding aspect of this is that although she lays out the abuses in detail, they are only tangentially acknowledged and the emphasis is on the fact that she killed John Shea after hearing one of the "The Meredith Tapes" which (in her mind) is one abuse too many after he doesn't even tell her The Tapes are about her. If she was "the great love of his life" why did he continue to abuse her. I am very disapointed In Dick Wolf and the other writers for missing the obvious.
