User Reviews

Fascinating & thought-provoking! Among the more fascinating aspects was how confidently and warmly this woman coached her clients which contrasted with her rather fractured personal side caused by being brought up in a dysfunctional family.

Interspersed with video clips of the therapy sessions, are looks at her neighbors, her family, friends and family of the clients and her own therapy sessions which gives a three-dimensional look at these people.

It's a tad slow, and definitely a bit dated, but all in all, very well done.

The last frame gives information about a professional society that these surrogates belong to for anyone looking for this type of therapy. I think it would be helpful for anyone considering this type of therapy to watch this first, to give some idea of how it all works.

I streamed it from Netflix; no need to hunt it down at the video store.

Okay, here goes...

The first thing I should say is that this film is NOT porno, it is NOT exploitative, and it is NOT Jerry Springer; don't let the cover fool you.

All the same, how you react to this film depends very highly on your attitudes regarding the use of a sex partner in psychotherapy. If you can suspend your judgement(eg: reasoning such as, "she's being paid to have sex with these people, therefore she's a _____ and this is all California bull____ psychobabble."), you may be in for a nice thought-provoking documentary.

At the time this film was made, Maureen Sullivan was a professional sex partner. Meaning that she was referred to, and paid by, psychotherapists to have sexual interactions with different men who have different sexual dysfunctions. In the course of this film, we see her in therapy sessions with "Kipper," a 25-year-old man who is a virgin, and is terrified of even looking at a woman, nevermind touching one. The opening session, where she just takes his hand and looks him in the eye, is truly moving to watch as he works through his fear of physical love.

At the same time, Maureen is also going through sex therapy with a man named "John," a 45-year-old divorced father who is going through self-esteem problems(understandably).

What makes this film work is that these are not your usual reality-show nitwits with a limited vocabulary. Maureen, Kipper, John, and the peripheral people in the movie are all thoughtful, sensitive, and articulate. Plus, besides dealing with Kipper's and John's problems with sexual intimacy, we also deal with several emotional issues related to this. What does Maureen's neighbors and family think of the work she does? What happens if one of Maureen's patients falls in love with her? (John does) How does she keep her distance from him without destroying his self-esteem? And is there a reason why the only sexual and emotional relationships Maureen has with men are when they are her patients, where after a limited amount of time, the relationship is over? Does she have a problem with committing to one man?

All of these are questions that get raised from watching this film, and none of these are taken lightly.

On a side note, being a 35-year-old virgin male, it would be good for me to know if this practice is still being taken in the field of psychiatry. I identified very strongly with what Kipper was going through with her.

Not your usual diversion on a Friday night, but a very strong educational film regarding the practice of love. 9 out of 10.

One more note: this film is out of print, so you have to really look hard to find it.